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There is a famous saying that “Be strong enough to let go and wise enough to wait for what you deserve.”

This proverb is a hopeful medicine when you are going through a break-up. When you were in a relationship with someone, there was new hope, excitement in love and romance, and everything about that person seemed cute and adorable. The world seems so much more colorful when your so-called soul mate is by your side and the same world turns grey when that soul mate leaves you.

The first few months or years for some seems to be a punishment. But please, don’t be harsh on yourself or curse that person. Instead, be thankful that the relationship ended because there are some sweet benefits that you can draw from that break-up. Calm down a bit and read the flip side of a break-up!

Freedom like Never Before

Let’s be honest and agree to the fact that – one is never free in real terms in a relationship. Your partner was perhaps ok with the fact that you were going out with your friends or deciding on certain goals but in the long run, these were the things which led to some bitterness in your relationship. But now he/she is no more a part of your life, all you can enjoy is Freedom in the truest sense. You can go on a long drive, return home late, eat the salads, pizza, or roll a joint without compromising, visit your favorite city, or bring a pet home. There would be no shrieking voice to stop you from living your life on your own terms – as simple as that.

Freedom like Never Before
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Space like NASA

The physical and mental space that you enjoy after a break-up is commendable. If you have been in a live-in relationship, the wardrobe, bathroom cabinet, shoe rack, and the whole house would feel lighter. Sometimes, after a tiring day at work, all you want is silence and your own SELF which was initially impossible with the presence of your partner. But now all you have is space – so utilize it in a great way. Perhaps you simply wanted to enjoy a relaxing Sunday at home with home cooked food but your partner wanted to meet you – that’s the beauty of a break-up – you don’t have to act to be happy now!

Space like NASA
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Finally, There Would be No Acting

Oh! This is such a big sigh of relief – right? You don’t have to unnecessarily act that how much you like his/her friends or relatives who feel it is their birthright to drop at your place every now and then that too unannounced! There would be no one to eat away your peace of mind….you can now be safe on your holidays and weekends. You don’t have to think of the main dish, desserts, and other modes of entertainment for those awful bunch of people.

Finally, There Would be No Acting
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You Get Better Understanding of the SELF

You and only you are the most important person in your life and every other thing and people come later. In a relationship, you have understood the other person but after a break-up, you gain more knowledge about the real kind of person you are. You come to learn more about your limits and strengths and most importantly, you learn where you can happily sacrifice and where not! This understanding is very important to avoid more heartbreaks in future. You start loving yourself more now!

You Get Better Understanding of the SELF
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The List of “What I Want in a Relationship” is Refined

Every break up is like a lesson from which you learn something. Every person is searching something special for his/her partner and your list is simply refined now. Maybe the thrill, adventure, or romance was missing a bit in your last relationship. Now you know what all you want in your partner in a clearer way.

The List of “What I Want in a Relationship” is Refined
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The Real Friends would Show Up

When you are going through a shining phase in your life, everyone would praise you, love you, and go crazy about you. But when you are hitting the low lanes of life, you would know who all your real friends are. The real or true friends would come close to you at this moment and built the lost courage and confidence in you again. So, treasure these friends!

The Real Friends would Show Up
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Creativity May Shine Out

Love is sweet, beautiful, and amazing – true. Heartbreaks are pathetic, traumatic, and sour – period! Your heart is in pain and you can use this pain to narrate a novel, write some poems, compose a piece of music, or paint. After channelizing your pain or negative energy for a creative purpose, you are definitely going to thank this break-up phase!

Creativity May Shine Out
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Losing hope and positivity for a break-up is not a valiant idea. I know, understanding this thing at an early stage of break-up is a bit difficult but when you calm down a bit, you would really understand these great benefits of your break-up. You won’t have any hard feelings then and would thank for that phase!

24 is an awkward yet wise age. This number sounds heavy and more so, the baggage it gives from the society makes it plausible. You start to look back on the times you’ve spent with people who were literally there for you. There are those who stab you in the back, those who stand for you miraculously and those who never return back.

At 24, you realize that maybe you haven’t stopped loving people but more so, you have lost trust in them and you begin to learn if you can really love someone just for a moment, without trusting them, believing that you can even take a bullet for them.

Sometimes at 24, you retreat yourself into a cocoon again and refuse to come out of it because you are so done with those who constantly are out there to drain your energy and bring you no good.

Lesson 1
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At 24, you voluntarily avoid the people you love and hurt yourself by hurting them and don’t know the reasons behind your actions. You escape. You start doing things you never thought you would do. Your cocoon becomes ever so stronger and maybe you become weaker than ever from inside.

And sometimes tragically at 24, your 20’s begin afresh with the new challenges and curve balls. Avoid, Do, Read, Learn, Accept, Move On and look out for a fresh change at 24.

  1. Pleasing people account for your own failure.
  2. Watch out for those who don’t applaud your achievements.
  3. Ignore the constant pulling you down remarks. They are not worth it.
  4. Ignoring negativity is no sign of an optimist.
  5. Stay away from those who always want to have ‘the last word’.
  6. If you feel they drain your energy, learn to ignore them.
  7. Seek what is seeking you.
  8. Recall back your day every night.
  9. Keep a journal.
  10. Travel as far as you can, as much as you can.
  11. Ignorance is truly a bliss!
  12. Respect everyone’s individuality.

    Lesson 12
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  13. Judge but don’t hate! There’s a difference!
  14. There will be great days.
  15. There will be awful days too.
  16. Respect yours and others choices.
  17. Lend an ear to a person in need.
  18. Meet people Face To Face.
  19. Write every day. You need not publish it.
  20. The world you see is a reflection of you.
  21. Even your closest friends will hurt you at some point in time.
  22. Don’t stay in the past. It will not bring any good.
  23. Invest in genuine friendships.
  24. You can always go on a long walk after a bad day!
    Lesson 24
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    Image Credits: The comics are by artist Augustina Argentina.

Someone has rightly said, “A relationship is like a house. When a light bulb burns out you do not go and buy a new house, you fix the light bulb.” Yes, the beautiful quote has great relevance for any relationship and especially the newly married couples need to make all-out efforts to ensure a smooth sailing in their future life ahead. If you have just been involved in nuptials and want to forge a stronger relationship with your loving partner, here are the few goals that need to be fulfilled by a newly-wed couple.

Help each other financially 
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Being married to someone means being available and supportive of another partner at all times. In a marriage, there is no hard and fast rule that all the expenses of the house need to be handled by a single partner whosoever it may be. However, both the partner need to take it as a collective responsibility and contribute accordingly.

Sharing household responsibilities together
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Just like the finances of the house, sharing household responsibilities is another crucial aspect of any mutual relationship. Don’t make the household chores as the sole responsibility of your wife or something out of your discretion. It would be really nice for a budding married relationship where a male partner is helping the other in various odd jobs like cleaning, cooking and other such tasks.

Respect in-laws of each other
Respect In Laws
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There should not be anything like “mine” and “yours” in a married relationship. You both need to give adequate respect and proper treatment to each other in-laws in order to establish a strong foundation of your mutual relationship. Always remember that in a marriage, in-laws play an important role and things could spoil drastically if any one of them is not respectful towards them.

Help each other to achieve fitness goals
couple achieving fitness goals together
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It is observed that couples who are healthy and fit tend to enjoy their married life in a proper way. Make efforts to ensure the good health of your partner by encouraging him or her to follow a healthy diet, active lifestyle, regular exercise regimen and a lot of other positive habits. You both can even join a gym or sports club together to stay fit and can give important relationship goals to other people.

Resolve mutual issues amicably
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It is possible that you and your partner may have differences over certain issues again and again. However, don’t let these trivial matters become a bone of contention in your mutual relationship and try to find solutions in an amicable manner.

Spend quality time together as and when possible

Marriage is a big responsibility and newly married couples have to make sincere efforts in this direction. No doubt, these early adjustments and a completely changed routine can make you constantly on your toes. Therefore, balance your work and other commitments in such a way that you can spend quality time with your partner on a weekend. Do plan out a candlelit dinner, a movie or shopping date with your partner to ensure strong bonding and mutual love.

So, follow these relationship goals and you can easily be an “ideal couple” among your peers and loved ones. It is all about making these little efforts that can reward you with fantastic results in your upcoming married life.

It may be said that “relationships are made in heaven” but they need to be nurtured with great care and affection on Earth. When people don’t give enough attention to their relationship, it loses its charm slowly and collapses ultimately. If you are not proactive enough to understand the warning signs of your relationship, here is the helpful guide for you. Take a quick look at the various events that tell your strong mutual bonding in a relationship is under threat.

Less Mutual Communication

You need to keep talking to your partner no matter what the situation may be. Stopping communication altogether means you have lost all hopes and it is only going to make things worse.

Less Mutual Communication
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Tip- Talk about the things that bother both of you in a relationship and try to find amicable solutions.   

Fight Over Trivial Issues

Relationships are under severe threat when you keep fighting with your partner over same old issues again and again. These frequent fights make things difficult for any couple and can contribute to their final breakup.

Fight Over Trivial Issues
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Tip- Stop grudging over old problems and have a discussion on how to solve them.

More Attention To The smartphone Than A Partner

If your partner thinks his/her smartphone deserves more attention than you, it is definitely time to ponder on your relationship. It is an alarming sign that your relationship is losing its charm and you both are heading for a split any time.

More Attention To The smartphone Than A Partner
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Tip- Take some hints from romantic novels and movies to spice up your eroding romantic life.   

You Don’t Spend Much Time Together

Does your partner find excuses to stay away from you? If it is the case, believe me, your relationship is in serious trouble.

You Don’t Spend Much Time Together
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Tip- Talk to your partner and plan out an immediate vacation to rejuvenate your romantic life.    

Loss of Respect and Support for Each Other

The end of mutual love in a relationship is preceded by an absence of respect and support for each other. If you are feeling that your partner does not support you in difficult situations, it is a clear indication that all is not well between the two of you.

Loss of Respect and Support for Each Other
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Tip- Stop criticizing each other for failures and try to appreciate the involved efforts of your partner.

No or Waning Interest In Sex Life

It is not that relationships are all about intimacy and sex life. However, it is a medium that helps two individuals to have comfort and solace in each other’s company. If you or your partner is always averse to the idea of intimacy, it is actually time for a serious introspection.

No or Waning Interest In Sex Life
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Tip- Aroma candles, aphrodisiac foods, spa sessions and other things can really spice up your intimate life with your partner.

These warning signs are not meant to create panic in your mutual relationships but are more a guiding light for a long-lasting relationship. You need to pay immediate attention and take appropriate actions for a blossoming love life.

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