There is a famous saying that “Be strong enough to let go and wise enough to wait for what you deserve.”
This proverb is a hopeful medicine when you are going through a break-up. When you were in a relationship with someone, there was new hope, excitement in love and romance, and everything about that person seemed cute and adorable. The world seems so much more colorful when your so-called soul mate is by your side and the same world turns grey when that soul mate leaves you.
The first few months or years for some seems to be a punishment. But please, don’t be harsh on yourself or curse that person. Instead, be thankful that the relationship ended because there are some sweet benefits that you can draw from that break-up. Calm down a bit and read the flip side of a break-up!
Freedom like Never Before
Let’s be honest and agree to the fact that – one is never free in real terms in a relationship. Your partner was perhaps ok with the fact that you were going out with your friends or deciding on certain goals but in the long run, these were the things which led to some bitterness in your relationship. But now he/she is no more a part of your life, all you can enjoy is Freedom in the truest sense. You can go on a long drive, return home late, eat the salads, pizza, or roll a joint without compromising, visit your favorite city, or bring a pet home. There would be no shrieking voice to stop you from living your life on your own terms – as simple as that.
Space like NASA
The physical and mental space that you enjoy after a break-up is commendable. If you have been in a live-in relationship, the wardrobe, bathroom cabinet, shoe rack, and the whole house would feel lighter. Sometimes, after a tiring day at work, all you want is silence and your own SELF which was initially impossible with the presence of your partner. But now all you have is space – so utilize it in a great way. Perhaps you simply wanted to enjoy a relaxing Sunday at home with home cooked food but your partner wanted to meet you – that’s the beauty of a break-up – you don’t have to act to be happy now!
Finally, There Would be No Acting
Oh! This is such a big sigh of relief – right? You don’t have to unnecessarily act that how much you like his/her friends or relatives who feel it is their birthright to drop at your place every now and then that too unannounced! There would be no one to eat away your peace of mind….you can now be safe on your holidays and weekends. You don’t have to think of the main dish, desserts, and other modes of entertainment for those awful bunch of people.
You Get Better Understanding of the SELF
You and only you are the most important person in your life and every other thing and people come later. In a relationship, you have understood the other person but after a break-up, you gain more knowledge about the real kind of person you are. You come to learn more about your limits and strengths and most importantly, you learn where you can happily sacrifice and where not! This understanding is very important to avoid more heartbreaks in future. You start loving yourself more now!
The List of “What I Want in a Relationship” is Refined
Every break up is like a lesson from which you learn something. Every person is searching something special for his/her partner and your list is simply refined now. Maybe the thrill, adventure, or romance was missing a bit in your last relationship. Now you know what all you want in your partner in a clearer way.
The Real Friends would Show Up
When you are going through a shining phase in your life, everyone would praise you, love you, and go crazy about you. But when you are hitting the low lanes of life, you would know who all your real friends are. The real or true friends would come close to you at this moment and built the lost courage and confidence in you again. So, treasure these friends!
Creativity May Shine Out
Love is sweet, beautiful, and amazing – true. Heartbreaks are pathetic, traumatic, and sour – period! Your heart is in pain and you can use this pain to narrate a novel, write some poems, compose a piece of music, or paint. After channelizing your pain or negative energy for a creative purpose, you are definitely going to thank this break-up phase!
Losing hope and positivity for a break-up is not a valiant idea. I know, understanding this thing at an early stage of break-up is a bit difficult but when you calm down a bit, you would really understand these great benefits of your break-up. You won’t have any hard feelings then and would thank for that phase!